Three ain’t a crowd for these lovers.
A Connecticut throuple has divulged the delicious details of their polyamorous lifestyle, which they claim has spawned jealous reactions from haters.
“I obviously had sex with both of them from the beginning, but we actually didn’t make it a party until a few months in,” Steven Bolden, 27, told Jam Press of his romantic tripleheader with Daniella Masciola, 21, and Priscilla Soares, 26. The trio has been in a polyamorous relationship — which is defined by dating more than one person simultaneously — since May 2020, and Bolden described the tightknit trifecta’s first-ever ménage à trois as a “dream come true.”
Now they frequently post about their unusual arrangement on a shared Instagram page, which has more than 4,000 followers.
Bolden and Soares had initially started a long-term, open relationship in 2019, but then they met Masciola, who reportedly changed their lives for the better.
“The story of how we met is pretty serendipitous — it’s like we were destined to be together,” gushed Masciola, who used to work at a store where she first encountered her future tag-teammates while they were selecting shoes for Soares’ birthday.
Masciola described how Bolden took her aside and asked her to help him prevent Soares from buying the footwear, which he had already purchased “in secret.”
A quick-thinking Masciola told the birthday girl that they were out of matching pairs, prompting her grateful boyfriend to return to the store “a week or two later” and gift her a box of chocolates as a thank you, Jam Press reported.
And while the starry-eyed shopgirl thought Bolden was “very attractive,” she was also “worried that he was a cheater,” said Masciola.
Thankfully, that wasn’t the case. After running into Bolden again, the two started dating due to their “instant chemistry,” whereupon her new beau decided it was time for her to officially meet Soares.
Fast forward several months and the three lovebirds had formed a “closed poly triad” — meaning they only date each other — and have reportedly never been happier.
Masciola doesn’t live with her lovers, but all three share the same bed nearly every night, which is reportedly one of the hardest parts of their relationship.
“Both Priscilla and I like sleeping on the end of the bed,” Masciola explained. “So does Steven but, of course, it’s ladies first — 99% of the time, he’s squished in the middle.”
Perhaps unsurprisingly, the throuple has received backlash over their polygamous partnership.
“The hardest thing about our relationship is outside voices,” lamented Bolden, who said they’ve received “disgusting messages from people calling the girls stupid, manipulated and lost.” Bolden claimed he’s personally been called “narcissistic, insecure” and even a closet homosexual, adding, “I think a lot of hate actually comes from jealousy.”
Indeed, polygamy has been the subject of much controversy, with feminist groups decrying the custom as discriminatory toward women. Keeping multiple partners has also been associated with messianic cult leaders, from Branch Davidians leader David Koresh to Jim Jones, founder of the ill-fated Jonestown commune in Guyana.
However, Bolden says the practice shouldn’t be this “taboo thing some people may see it as.”
“A big misconception about a throuple is that it’s a sexual free-for-all and that we are basically swingers, which is not what we are at all,” insisted the polyamory trustee. “Picture a traditional, happy, healthy relationship — then multiply it by three and you have our relationship.”
Unlike certain throuples who identify as mythical creatures, Bolden added, “We like to keep the focus on the bigger picture and the more important aspects of having a successful relationship, poly or otherwise.”
Not to mention that it’s easier to have extra helpers and the added salary, according to the trio. In fact, a Colorado throuple who recently became parents to a baby girl called it a “blessing” to have “three pairs of hands instead of two.”
Indeed, a 2015 UC Davis study of polygyny — the practice of a man having multiple female partners — in Tanzania found that “sharing a husband may, in some circumstances, lead to greater health and wealth for women and their children,” according to Science Daily.
While the throuple’s relationship may include more threesomes than the average person has, Bolden claimed that “for the most part, it’s one-on-one,” adding, “Threesomes every day would just be too much work!”